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You’re a Fake 4c’er and Don’t Know It

You're a FAKE 4C'er and Don't know It

Browsing through Twitter I came across this inquiry from a fellow blogger,  Nelly B to us:

What do you think about naturals who claim to have 4c hair bcuz they think their hair is unmanageable

After writing this nice four to five sentence response to her blog post, save and see it did not post nor did I copy my profound knowledge…I decided to write a response to her question in this post.

As a TYPE 4 NATURAL, specifically the kinkiest of the hair textures known as 4c, I have a right to give my opinion, my experience and my shade to those that want to believe their hair is like mine.  Nelly B says in her blog article, that within the natural hair community, 4c hair is the most talked about. Of course, it is! It’s so different from the other textures of hair. Who else but the kinky hair girls can have a disrespectful afro one day, twist outs the next day, a tuck n roll or even a flowing in the breeze blowout?

I used to call my hair, slave hair, the nappy, hard, out in the sun hair because I knew no better than the many other naturals that are not familiar with the texture of their hair. How can they be? Some haven’t seen what really grows from their head since they literally had baby hair. Not the hair you push down from your ponytail to create finger waves with, but actual soft, side of the temple baby hair…

I know when I returned naturalmy hair was soft and very manageable, mainly due to my big chop and relaxer in my hair shaft and bloodstream. STOP✋ please tell me you knew that the chemicals of relaxers including the baby straightening kits travel throughout your body? Yea, so chemicals take some time to leave your bloodstream. It took my hair a full year to be visually and physically without relaxer in my system. Your hair strands, with constant maintenance of trims and love, will show you your true texture.

In the meantime, let me give you tales of my kinky hair and compare it to yours:

  1. Washing and Conditioning – Whether I  wash my hair with moisturizing shampoo and conditioner or just cowash, my hair requires delicacy and time or my fragile tight curls will break and be all over my shower or sink, depending on my mood. After the wash, my hair feels soft, is detangled and looks like balls of cotton (if you look close you can see the white hair – what my mini-me calls it. Lol) It will not look the way it feels, but it’s ok. As long as you can get your fingers through it, you’re on to a good start. You are not a type 4c natural if you can see defined curls after washing and conditioning, we will never have a true wash and go. It doesn’t matter what products you use if your hair doesn’t make you want to grab a loose curl and play in it, just might be that you’re not a kinky 4c.4C Hair
  2. Styling – I’m a semi-lazy natural. On a good night, I’ll sit and moisturize and twist my strands and hope they dry in enough time to give me a decent twist out. *IF IT DOES NOT DRY*, there is nothing wrong with rocking your shrinkage. EMBRACE your shrinkage. Put a bow or headband on and rock your new style. It’s a new style because more than a few people at work or school or wherever you spend your days will ask, “did you cut your hair?” Eventually, I would simply say “Yes, do you like it?” LOVE it! It’s your hair. A twist out is a twist out is a twist out. No matter how many methods you use to keep that cute style, I guarantee that in the morning at least one side of that style if not your whole head will be a semi-matted looking mess. I have yet to get up shake my head and every strand lays perfect, nope it’s not my life. If it’s yours, you may want to reconsider your mental memberships to the 4c hair community.
  3. Maintenance – This is the most difficult aspect of having true 4c hair. Our hair spits out moisture and if you moisturize too much, your hair will be limp or dull. The best method to keep 4c hair moisturized and healthy are regular trims and applying the Leave-in. Oil. Cream. (LOC) Method.

Which leave-in, oil or creams are good? This is what works for my hair

  • Leave-In – the brands that I can swear by are Cantu or Shea Moisture. Both are thick leave-in conditioners that coat my hair without me feeling as if I need half the jar to do its job.
  • OilJamaican Black Castor Oil, (JBCO) is my go-to oil, others use olive, jojoba or even shea butter to seal the leave-in into the hair.
  • Cream – recently Wonder Curl and my 4c hair have fallen in love. Specifically combining the Butter Than Love Pudding and Butter Than Love Whipped gives me the most defined and moist twist out. Even on the most humid day, my hair continued to look the way I left my house.

I am in awe that there are fake 4c hair chicks out there. Stop it! Unless you go through any of the struggles that us with kinky hair go through, you won’t understand. It took some time to appreciate this head of hair, for people to want to have it too. Well thanks, but love what came out of your own head. I love all different types of hair but I love mine even more now. In the beginning of this journey, I was envious of ladies with loose curls. Eventually, I  learned more about my kinky hair and realized I love my hair but…

4C Hair

I usually end my posts with a question, but I’m a little hesitant to ask. Do you think you’re a fake 4’cer?

You're a Fake 4c'er and Don't Know It

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  • Reply
    Nelly B.
    July 6, 2015 at 8:47 am

    Oh this is just so real!! Thank you for breaking down what dealing with 4c hair is all about. I think some naturals need to research before they jump to conclusions.

    • Reply
      July 6, 2015 at 1:07 pm

      Thank you again for opening up this dialog. The greatest thing to take on this natural hair journey is knowledge. Knowledge of self and the ability to ask questions if you don’t know something…specifically your hair type and how to care for it.

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    July 6, 2015 at 9:26 am

    I am not a fake 4c’er and just read the Nelly B article before seeing your post on twitter. I’m in a lot of natural hair communities too and I’ve never noticed this! I’m thinking now that maybe I’m just missing it because according to you two it’s happening quite a bit.

    I can say, however, that I’ve seen ladies type their hair in ways that I didn’t think was correct, but I tend to have a hard time with the typing system because there are so many versions out there! After being natural for 3.5 years, I just took the time to define my own hair and I can’t be certain that I got it right! Lol. So, whenever I see ladies that aren’t defining their hair correctly, I just think they’re having the same issue I had…or maybe the chart or system they’re using is telling them something different!

    • Reply
      July 6, 2015 at 9:57 am

      Hi Mionna, yes it is true that some ladies are not familiar with their hair texture and don’t know how to maintain it so they simply categorize it with the most difficult type. That shouldn’t be. Beyond the hair charts, just looking in the mirror after a wash and condition will show you what curl pattern you have. Even further, let it hair dry what does it look like?

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        August 27, 2015 at 12:13 am

        I feel some people may have a mixed texture. And if they are beginning their hair journey they may be working on defining their texture. They may need deep conditioning, protein treatments etc. I don’t believe anyone would be so petty as to fake their hairs texture.

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          August 27, 2015 at 7:47 pm

          Hi Jamila, you are correct. It may take some time for your true hair texture to reveal itself so in the meantime you must deep condition and keep it moisturized.

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        August 27, 2015 at 3:49 am

        How can one check to see what type of hair they have? I have natural hair, dont know what type and i’m just testing all sorts of products.

        • Reply
          August 27, 2015 at 7:44 pm

          Hi Carla! There are many sources online to determine your hair texture. I knew my hair type by the description of not having a curl pattern that was loose and defined.

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        Fatumata Gumaneh
        May 6, 2016 at 2:32 pm

        When i did the big chop 2 years ago i had 4c , my hair was really coily and the skrinkage was just huge but most importantly the dryness, but after my baby 1 year ago my hair curls have became looser ive tried protien treatments and deep conditioners but it is stilk looser and way more softer but shrinkage is still there and only parts of my hair get really dry, now i dont know what type i am anymore or if i should be doing another big chop or is my hair really 4c just looser ,

        • Reply
          May 8, 2016 at 7:21 pm

          I’ve heard of natural hair textures changing over time, especially during and after pregnancy. If you’d like to start again and bigchop, you can or you can examine your texture a little longer to see if it reverts itself or becomes your “new hair”.

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    July 6, 2015 at 10:40 am

    I’m a real 4c. I think a lot of ppl think 4c hair is dry and because their dryness they think that it’s our hair type. Lack of moisturise will have your hair looking matted.

    • Reply
      July 6, 2015 at 12:50 pm

      It can be dry but that’s after being so lazy and doing nothing with it. In order to manipulate it it has to have water and a cream at the very least with brings in the moisture.

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    Kerri Estella
    July 7, 2015 at 11:47 am

    I don’t know what my “type” of hair is. I think that maybe since my natural-to-relaxed ratio is reversed (My hair has been natural for a longer period of time than it has been relaxed), I’ve just always kind of thought of it as “my hair”. You have an interesting perspective.

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    July 11, 2015 at 8:54 am

    Wow! Lol! Thank you for posting this. I guess I have been officially booted from the 4c club. That’s OK tho, because I honestly didn’t know where my hair fit in, like many other naturals. BUT in our defense, I have to say it’s not entirely our fault. I scoured the internet looking for information and found a lot of ladies who were like mega-star-naturals with hair like mine, claiming everything from 4a-4z. So you can imagine how some may get a bit confused as to what is truly 4abc. So I am truly thankful for you (And Nelly B. I see you sis!) for posting this information! This needs to be shared!

    • Reply
      July 11, 2015 at 11:12 am

      Lol you are so welcome. It’s not about typing but caring for your hair texture properly and some aren’t. There are products that Jo or Kory are able to use that just doesn’t work for me. Or I use creams that are way to heavy for Jo’s hair. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. Please share!!

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    Curiouser and curiouser
    December 24, 2016 at 10:12 am

    Loose = not tight; looser = not as tight as her curls
    Lose = didn’t win; loser = the person who didn’t win

    • Reply
      December 27, 2016 at 9:42 am

      Thank you for the correction. Sometimes spellcheck does not catch all spelling errors. 💜 Other than the spelling, did you like the post about my opinion of 4c hair?

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    April 11, 2017 at 1:55 am

    I can’t be the only one in the natural crew whose hair products do virtually nothing. .. I’m talking about curl defining and twist out definition too. Nothing at all. It looks like it works but when I separate my strands they look as curl free as they were before.
    Does this mean my hair is unhealthy?

    • Reply
      April 14, 2017 at 11:32 am

      Hi Kk! No it does not mean it’s unhealthy. It could be the actual products. Sometimes our hair just doesn’t like the products. Does the styler u use have a holding agent? How are you separating? You have to put some oil on your fingertips and slowly unravel the twists. Depending on the definition, if you separate more, it may turn into a fro because there was nothing added like a gel to keep the definition.

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