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Luvvie Ajayi: I’m Judging You, Book Review

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Luvvie Ajayi, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual. I was sent this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

Walk into a natural hair event and you will find people, other ladies that may look like you, staring, whispering, judging the outfit you wore, how your hair is or isn’t styled to perfection, why you put that shade of lipstick on and did you know some of it was on your teeth as you walk around smiling and greeting people that have been at the venue for about an hour before you decided to make your entrance. They recognize your face because they stalk you on YouTube and judge how your content has such a large following, judge, judge, judge. People are forever judging. Silently judging. Shouting it loud judging. They don’t know your life and why you felt it was okay to join the party on colored people time while everyone else was there trying to make impressions in the cool corner, while you just wanted to make sure to get a branded swag bag full of goodies. Again, don’t judge me or others that feel the same way you do and don’t express it.

In the funny debut of I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual, Luvvie Ajayi shares her voice and interesting acronyms for common English terms, in a collection of essays on various topics in a New York Times best seller. Have you heard of the book? What? No worries, I’m not judging you. Not everyone is social media conscious of every person alive even if her award winning resume includes roles such as comedian, popular blogger and activist with her own nonprofit organization The Red Pump Project, for women and girls impacted by HIV/AIDS. Luvvie is the voice in my head of all the things I want to say, some I actually have.

I’m a procrastinator. I received this book to read, to review and to share amongst our readers months ago. Please don’t judge me for my behavior, the way my life is set up, carrying and reading a hardcover book was not working out everyday for me. I learned from Luvvie that I too can and should do better.

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One of the many topics she covers in the book about how we as a people can become better is about sharing your time with people you like or semi like over tapas and various libations in a hole in the wall close to work. Maybe the last part is a personal experience, but substitute the venue to your choice.

Dinner Scrooges as Luvvie describes them, is a person who:

(a) eats a lot and wants to split the bill equally;
(b) calculates their bill to the cent;
(c) leaves early and forgets to pay;

Do you also know someone that fits into one of the above? I do and I judge them all. In order to cope, I group the people that I entertain with. I know when I have to have a few extra dollars to treat for no special reason other than, I just know you don’t have it but want to come out. If you dare to itemize a bill in my presence like you are reviewing your taxes from 2015, I will have a meltdown in my chair and you may have to just get up and leave instead of continuing such a ridiculous action. And if you even think to be that person that has an “emergency” and must go without handling your financial affairs, then you will know the meal that you forgot to pay will be your last meal with me. I think if you fall into any of these situations, you should look in your mirror and tell yourself to do better.

I’m Judging You, also covers conversations you may have had in funny topics like “When Baehood Goes Bad”, “Your Facebook is My Favorite Soap Opera”, to serious “Rape Culture is Real and It Sucks”, or in “Weight a Minute”, “We suck so bad for shaming people’s weight, whether heavy or thin. We talk about people’s size constantly, and no one is considered perfect as they are.” Judging humans for their natural body weight or weight they have gained from the whoppers and cheesecakes they love to hate, is not for anyone but them to judge and maybe Luvvie.

Luvvie is an equal opportunity shade thrower, and none of us are safe from her grimlet eye. As a digital strategist, noted speaker, executive director of her own nonprofit, and author of I’m Judging You, The Do-Better Manual, Luvvie Ajayi is a woman in business you should follow and get to know, in order to do better.

Do you judge others for their questionable behavior? Do you scroll through social media and see people use the wrong spelling for words like ‘their’, ‘there’ or ‘they’re’ and it gets on your last nerve?Let’s talk about it.

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    November 3, 2016 at 7:11 am

    ok it’s so time for me to get this book I’ve read and heard nothing but good thind

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    November 3, 2016 at 7:38 pm

    I can’t wait to read this book. I requested from the library though so I will be waiting a while. I just may have to get it for myself.

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    Valerie Robinson
    November 4, 2016 at 10:54 am

    I ann still trying to finish it, but I have been in stitches reading the work ignored the brilliant and talented Luvvie!

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    November 6, 2016 at 1:39 pm

    I just bout my copy at the blogalicious conference and got to hear her speak. Absolutely love her and can not wait to dive in!

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    November 3, 2017 at 10:41 am

    And now it’s out in hardcover! YAY! I loved this book, and this particular chapter you quote made me HOWL. I hate group dinners for this very reason.

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    Felecia Monique
    November 3, 2017 at 11:08 am

    Interesting topic for a book. Might tickle my fancy I should pick it up!

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    November 3, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    This sounds like an interesting read. Judging comes along with being imperfect, but it can be managed.

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    Mimi Green
    November 3, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    This book was a dream start to finish. I found myself talking back to the book. Rolling my eyes, my neck and throwing my hand in the air. I love when books make me feel that way. That is how I know it is real.

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    November 3, 2017 at 7:09 pm

    I’ve got to get this one! It sounds funny and truthful!

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    November 3, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    Oh and I’m so guilty of judging people on social media. I am not a fan of using words like ur instead of your like it’s 2 additional letters come on!! LOL

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    EG III
    November 5, 2017 at 6:18 am

    I’m gonna have to use Dinner Scrooges! I know a TON of them…in all three categories. I already know myself and how I eat which is one reason I specifically avoid social eating/group share situations. I won’t drop any names but (AHEM), my bro-in-law, is that type that will act like he’s coming over for a friendly visit, fix a plate, a few drinks, and leave AS SOON AS his cup is empty.

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    Sapphire Kharyzma
    November 5, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    I have this book and I have to read it! I have heard such great things and can’t wait to dive in!

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    November 5, 2017 at 9:51 pm

    I read this book and it was hilarious.! Had me on the floor the whole time.

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    Evelyn Reese
    November 5, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    Wow, this book sounds like a hilarious and funny read, which we all need in our life. It sounds really honest and truthful regarding life. I will have to check this out too.

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    November 5, 2017 at 11:18 pm

    I guess I’m one of the only people in the blogger world that hasn’t read the book. Sounds hilarious for sure, especially when you can see a little of yourself!

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    November 5, 2017 at 11:55 pm

    This seems hilarious! I guess I am more judgemental than I should be, but for entertainments sake I guess that’s fine!

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    Elle (CleverlyChanging)
    November 6, 2017 at 7:11 am

    I read the “Do Better Manual ” about a year ago. I enjoyed the book because i could relate to what she was saying. I also felt like there were parts where I should apply the advice to my own life.

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    Tiffany H.
    November 6, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    I think we all judge people for varying reasons. When it comes to the dinner table, I believe that the bill should be split according to what you order. If I order a salad and you order a steak and wine, I’m not paying for your tab. LOL I don’t drink and will not pay for your drinking habits.

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