Browsing through Twitter I came across this inquiry from fellow blogger, Nelly B to us:
What do you think about naturals who claim to have 4c hair bcuz they think their hair is unmanageable
After writing this nice four to five sentence response to her blog post, save and see it did not post nor did I copy my profound knowledge…I decided to write a response to her question in this post.
As a TYPE 4 NATURAL, specifically the kinkiest of the hair textures known as 4c, I have a right to give my opinion, my experience and my shade to those that want to believe their hair is like mine. Nelly B says in her blog article, that within the natural hair community, 4c hair is the most talked about. Of course it is, it’s so different from the other textures of hair. Who else but the kinky hair girls can have a disrespectful afro one day, twistouts the next day, a tuck n roll or even a flowing in the breeze blowout?
I used to call my hair, slave hair, the nappy, hard, out in the sun hair, because I knew no better than the many other naturals that are not familiar with the texture of their hair. How can they be? Some haven’t seen what really grows from their head since they literally had baby hair. Not the hair you push down from your ponytail to create fingerwaves with, but actual soft, side of the temple baby hair…
I know when I returned natural, my hair was soft and very manageable, mainly due to my big chop and having relaxer in my hair shaft and bloodstream. STOP please tell me you knew that the chemicals of relaxers including the baby straightening kits, travel throughout your body? Yea, so chemicals take sometime to leave your bloodstream. It took my hair a full year to be visually and physically without relaxer in my system. Your hair strands, with constant maintenance of trims and love, will show you your true texture.
In the meantime, let me give you tales of my kinky hair and compare it to yours:
- Starting with the beginning of the process, washing and conditioning. Whether I wash my hair with moisturizing shampoo and conditioner or just cowash, my hair requires delicacy and time or my fragile tight curls will break and be all over my shower or sink, depending on my mood. After the wash, my hair feels soft, is detangled and looks like balls of cotton (if you look close you can see the white hair – what my mini me calls it. Lol) It will not, look the way it feels, but it’s ok. As long as you can get your fingers through it, you’re on to a good start. You are not a type 4c natural if you have clear defined curls after washing and conditioning, we will never have a true wash and go. It doesn’t matter what products you use, if your hair doesn’t make you want to grab a loose curl and play in it, just might be that you’re not a kinky 4c.
- Style – I’m a semi-lazy natural, on a good night I’ll sit and moisturize and twist my strands and hope they dry in enough time to give me a decent twistout. *IF IT DOES NOT DRY*, there is nothing wrong with rocking your shrinkage. EMBRACE your shrinkage. Put a bow or headband on and rock your new style. It’s a new style because more than a few people at work or school or wherever you spend your days will ask, “did you cut your hair?” Eventually I would simply say “Yes, do you like it?” LOVE it! It’s your hair. A twistout is a twistout is a twistout. No mater how many methods you use to keep that cute style, I guarantee that in the morning at least one side of that style if not your whole head will be a semi matted looking mess. I have yet to get up shake my head and every strand lays perfect, nope it’s not my life. If it’s yours, you may want to reconsider your mental memberships to the 4c hair community.
- Maintenance of my hair is the most difficult aspect of having true 4chair, because our hair spits out moisture like after you realize the milk smells ok but just isn’t right. Then again if you moisturize too much, that routine will effect your hair making it limp and dull. The common method of keeping 4chair moisturized and healthy is regular trims and applying the Leave-in. Oil. Cream. (LOC) Method. Simple yet so hard. Which leave-in, oil and cream is good? In my opinion for my hair:
- Leave-In – the brands that I can swear by are Cantu or Shea Moisture. Both are thick leave-in conditioners that coat my hair without me feeling as if I need half the jar to do its job.
- Oil – Jamaican Black Castor Oil,(JBCO) is my go to oil, others use olive, jojoba or even sheabutter to seal the leave-in into the hair.
- Cream – recently Wonder Curl and my 4c hair have fallen in love. Specifically combining the Butter Than Love Pudding and Butter Than Love Whipped gives me the most defined and moist twistout. Even on the most humid day, my hair continued to look the way I left my house.
I am in awe that there are fake 4c hair chicks out there but stop it. Unless you go through any of the struggles that those with kinky hair go through than you will not get it. It took some time to appreciate this head of hair, for people to want to have it too, well thanks but love what came out of your own head.
I love all different types of hair but I love mine more. In the beginning of this journey, I would be envious of ladies with loose curls, but eventually I learned more about my kinky hair and realized that I love my hair but…
I usually end my posts with a question, but I’m a little hesitant to ask: do you think you’re a fake 4’cer?